How to Give Him Pleasure

We hope these tips help you to improve new techniques when matchmaking situations with a partner.

Adult Dating Tip #1.

Play with his perineum

The area between the penis and anus tends to be ignored - just like the testicles - in favor of a man's preference for his penis to be the focus of his sexual pleasure. And yet, just like his testicles, a man's perineum can be the route to a great deal of adult sexual pleasure. You can stroke, nibble, lick or use firmer finger pressure to press on his perineum. The latter move will stimulate his prostate gland, which lies just inside his body at this point: pressure on it in the moments before he comes will increase the intensity of his orgasm.

Adult Dating Tip #2.

When he comes, stimulate his anus

Inserting a finger into his anus or just playing around the edge of it as he starts to come will increase the intensity of his orgasm - a lot! It will also send him over the edge if you do it before he's begun to ejaculate, so you can exercise some control over both the timing and intensity of his orgasm and ejaculation. This is one he's really going to thank you for!

Adult Dating Tip #3.

Dirty talk

This may not be news to you, but a surprising number of women have great difficulty in overcoming their inhibitions and talking dirty during sex. However, if you can do it, you may find that telling him "Oh yes, fuck my hot wet cunt!" as he's thrusting and - especially if he's near his orgasm - has an intense effect on his arousal - and maybe yours, too. Another nice one for your man.

Adult Dating Tip #4.

Surprise him

If you have a fixed sexual routine, making even one small change can add new excitement and thrills. So, for example, if you usually make love with him on top, roll over so you're doing it on your sides. If he usually has to ask for rear entry sex, unexpectedly surprise him by acting lustfully and presenting yourself, bottom up, as it were, for his delight. If he's the one who proposes the quickie, take the initiative and assert yourself sexually from time to time. If you've never "come on strong" to him, demanding sex on the kitchen table or the stairs, or wherever, give it a go when you are feeling horny.Try porn. You may have an aversion to the more insalubrious kind of skin-flick, and with good reason, for much porn is pretty distasteful stuff. But there is material out there which is sexy and safe for couples to watch together. Try this supplier as a starting point. You may find it gets you both going in a way that you've never experienced before. Another name to watch out for is Femme Productions.

Adult Dating Tip #5.

Wake him up in the night for sex

But do it subtly. Don't roll over and grab his penis! If you're aroused, press your wet hot vulva against his body and perhaps move your hips slightly. If he wakes up gradually, he'll soon get the idea. And sex in the night after a couple of hours' sleep can be surprisingly intense, though it may be best to wait until you don't need to get up early next day! If you're not aroused, try stroking his penis gently until he begins to respond to your stimulation.

Adult Dating Tip #6.

Use lube if you need to

Most people realize that after the menopause a woman often needs extra lubrication for her vagina, but what a lot of couples don't appreciate is that even before the menopause, using an artificial lube can greatly improve - or at least alter - the excitement of sex. There are many good ones on the market: perhaps the best are Astroglide and Probe. It is also possible to get totally natural ones made from Aloe Vera (and ones made from oils and essential oils) but my experience with my partner is that these irritated her vagina and were in fact so slippery that we lost a lot of sensation. You do need some friction, after all!

Adult Dating Tip #7.

Put some lube inside the condom

Sounds outrageous, but it can make a great deal of difference to a man's experience of sex, and go a long way to overcoming the old complaint that sex with a condom causes him to lose some of the pleasure. A word of warning, though: if you use too much lube inside a condom, it may slip off. On the subject of condoms, another trick I have heard recommended, but never tried, is to turn a ribbed condom inside out, so the ribbed bits rub against his penis. This apparently can provide him with extra pleasure.

Adult Dating Tip #8.

Let him masturbate between your breasts

Sure, you don't want him thinking of you as a sex object, but giving your partner an unexpected pleasure with no strings attached is surely part of a loving relationship? If he's standing, the unexpected pleasure can be letting him masturbate between your breasts: kneel in front of him and encircle his erect cock with your breasts. Then let him thrust - you'll need some lube, like saliva. Watch the expression of ecstasy on his face when he comes, and you'll know how much pleasure this can give him - especially if it's a new act in your sexual repertoire!